1. Say no to people- Hayden was a month early and was very small. Our doctor said to limit guests for the first 2 months of his life. It sucked. I felt rude and sad that I couldn't share my sweetheart with the world. However, looking back, it was such a big adjustment and I was so freggin tired--having guests would have just stressed me out even more. If you aren't comfortable with someone seeing you in your pajamas with the biggest bags under your eyes- maybe don't have them over right now. This is a time about you and your family. It's ok to say no.
2. It's ok to be disconnected- I remember feeling like I fell off the face of the earth. I got out of contact with so many friends, hadn't seen any new movies and hadn't gone shopping in WAY to long. All of these things came back slowly in time. I started to see friends again and got caught up on things. Don't worry your social life will all come back in due time.
3. Don't fret over schedules- I drove myself nuts trying to get Hayden on a schedule. I read every single thing I could find and really worked hard at making him get on a schedule. In the end I decided-- screw that. He will get on a schedule when he is ready-- and once I let go of this perfect schedule idea all that anxiety went away. I decided to do what worked for me. That included taking naps cuddled up with him and nursing him to sleep. Whatever works for you and your individual baby is what you should do.
4. Don't compare your baby- I constantly compared my son to others his age. Where is your baby at developmentally, how big is your baby, how much do they eat? etc. etc. etc. You know what I learned-- it's not important. Every baby develops in different ways and at different times. Just like the growth chart stats-- just watch that your baby is growing/developing and your good to go.
5. Hang in there- It is a huge adjustment going from doing whatever the heck you want whenever you want to having a baby dictate everything. I mean wait I can't run out the door anymore in 2 seconds? I can't sleep in until 11 if I want?! Don't worry- you adjust. My brother said you grow with the baby and that is so true. You really do and then waking up at 6 every morning isn't so bad. You will look forward to it because it will be to get your sweet smiling happy baby out of bed. Getting all his stuff together to leave will get easier...actually everything will get easier. Then you will look back and realize wow it was alot of changes but ALL for the better!
These are just a few things I wish I could go back and tell myself after having Hayden. It is such a huge adjustment and you know what-- it all turns out ok. Not just ok it turns out beautiful, wonderful and full of blessings.
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